Cuckold Angst and how to Deal with it

Cuckold angst is one of the most powerful emotions and biggest hurdles to overcome as the cuckold. It is one of the biggest issue that needs to be dealt with and the reason why more men are not cuckolded. Cuckold angst is a specific emotion made up of primarily of jealously and fear of the unknown coupled with a feeling of excitement and arousal at the prospect of getting cuckolded.

Cuckold angst is very much an emotional state that changes in intensity as you go through with the process of getting cuckolded and is not unlike the proverbial rollercoaster ride.

Nothing can truly prepare one for the intensity of the emotions which a cuckold will go through as the wife takes on another lover. Knowing what the process entails will help you push through the tough bits knowing that there's light on the other side of the tunnel.

As a rule of thumb make sure that all communication between her prospective bull, your wife and yourself is always open and transparent. Part of what drives cuckold angst is not being in the loop and this will minimize the angst at least on the communication front.

Another key aspect of minimizing your angst is to iron out everything during your initial meet (see Finding and Choosing your Bull). Remember your first meeting will be in public and there should be no sexual contact or play during this meeting. This is simply to understand each party's desires and needs. If you're all on the same page there should be nothing that surprises you once the play starts.

However even if you've dealt with all potential risks there will still be a significant amount to deal with that's unknown that you need to be prepared for. The first thing you will need to deal with will be your wife's excitement and nervousness that comes with any new sexual partner. This is typical as you can imagine of any new partner. Think about how you first felt when you met your wife. Butterflies in the stomach and the imagination running wild. This is completely normal and you must remember this is why you are entering the lifestyle, to give it some horns! And because you'll be part of the comms (as mentioned above) you must make a point to enjoy it with her.

The second crucial element of cuckold angst will be your first playdate. As a word of advice make your first playdate with all three of you in the same room. Don't be brave and send her on a date the first time, you're adding unnecessary tension and stress to an already tough situation. As a male your visual sense will be your main driver of angst as you witness your wife give herself over to her new partner.

 

The hardest (and most exciting) things to see is the undressing of both your wife and her new lover. A good bull will take his time, checking both your and your wife's responses as each item of clothing comes off. The real crux will come when she's in her underwear. Her bra should come off first and this is a big deal for women as they are probably most self conscious about their breasts (can we call this "hotwife angst"?). Say something encouraging if you can to help her out, remember this is as big for you as for her and she will also need loads of encouragement. From an angst perspective just think of this as two people getting naked.

Next will be her panties. This is a massive step and you will feel like the walls may be closing in. Psychologically the bull is removing the very last physical barrier to sexual intercourse and it will be her and your tacit approval of the willingness to enter into the cuckold lifestyle. The first time we played the bull had my wife on her back on the edge of the bed and reached underneath her and pulled them off. She obviously had to lift her hips a little to help get them off which was her way of giving approval.

Seeing the bull take his underwear off should be an interesting process, you will definitely compare size. You should have chosen a bull that is bigger than you anyhows which should make for an interesting event.

Seeing the bull and the wife kiss is also a sight to see as it is extremely intimate. Some couples don't allow kissing for this exact reason. If you do decide to allow kissing start slow (start with the neck and/or breasts) and get them to work their way up to a full blown french kiss.

If you've come this far well done.

The biggest issue and the one that will dominate your first play will be the initial penetration. If your bull has done his job everyone will be relaxed and extremely aroused. Make sure that you have a good view of them both. A good bull will spend a fair amount of time with the initial penetration both for himself and for you as a couple. Enjoy this moment. You will be so enamored with the situation the angst will disappear the moment he pushes himself in.



Congratulations, you've passed one of the most challenging aspects of the cuckold process.

The Cuck

Cleanup on Isle V

The cleanup is one of the most discussed topics on the issue of cuckolding. How many couples actually go through with the act is probably up for debate as it really ranks quite high up in the advanced space of cuckolding.

The act of cleaning up is any act involving the cuckold licking up the bull's cum. Although widely portrayed as the licking of your wife after the bull has ejaculated inside her it refers more widely to any instance where the cuckold licks the cum of the bull, whether it be off her breasts, her pussy, her bum or from inside her. The point of the cleanup is to avoid your wife having to get up after having sex with her bull and dealing with the semen that is either starting to leak from her vagina or run off her body.

This is probably one of the most powerful acts within the cuckold lifestyle as it so easily combines the mental AND physical aspects of the cuckolding lifestyle. From a physical perspective it brings the cuckold right to the apex of where his wife and her lover join. Semen also carries with it immense  psychological power, being one half of the ingredients needed for conception and life to start and its presence either inside or on your wife indicates a certain level of ownership has already taken place.

As far as the cuckold is concerned it is the ultimate proof that his wife has had someone inside her (if the bull ejaculates inside her) and that she is comfortable having his semen in and around her body. As far as this type of activity goes there is also the assumption that at this point the bull has been tested and is clean and that some form of bareback play is part of the mix. This is also the one area where the wife is actually not the center of attention and also doesn't receive as much pleasure as the cuckold. This is an act primarily between the bull who uses this to dominate the cuckold and for the cuckold to reinforce his acceptance of the bull's dominance by taking the bull's semen into his own body. The wife is merely the conduit through which this power flows.

Getting to the cleanup stage in the lifestyle should take the cuckold quite a bit of time. It is a big step to take in the relationship and won't come easily to most men. We are not programmed to eat semen, whether it be our own or someone else's. However, there is one little weakness that all men possess and that is sexual excitement, aka being horny and both the bull and the cuckold need to exploit this to the full in preparing for cleanup duty.

To help you with the mental aspect of getting into contact with another man's semen just think of the general expectation that men have of women to either let us come inside their mouths or for them to swallow our cum. If they've been doing it for so long surely it isn't actually such a big deal for you to do the same. The other way of looking at it is that you've allowed another man outside of your marriage to not only be inside your wife, but be inside her without protection, cleaning up a little cum afterwards is actually not that big of a step to take.

The best way to tackle the process of cleaning up after your bull and wife is first to get comfortable with your own cum. The biggest challenge that most men face when trying to sample their own cum is that the desire to do so disappears as soon as you've orgasmed. Firstly, try and scoop and taste as much precum as possible leading up to your orgasm. This will get you used to the taste and texture of whats coming out of your body. Secondly, stop touching yourself as soon as you start your orgasming and start ejaculating. It will feel unnatural and frustrating but you will be able to ejaculate without losing much of your arousal. With that done you can scoop up some cum and taste. The more you do this the easier it will become.

Once you're comfortable with your own cum get your wife involved when the two of you are playing. If the bull still allows you to come inside her, ask her if you can go down on her afterwards or for her to sit on your chest or face afterwards. Most girls are always keen for oral so this shouldn't be an issue. If you still feel like you've lost the urge after coming, give yourselves a 10 minute breather and then climb in. At this point you should be well versed and comfortable consuming your own semen.

Whether the bull or wife ask you or not you are entitled as the cuckold to clean up after them (i.e. you do not need to wait for an invitation, although most bulls will ask you to clean up anyways). Some couples wait for the bull to first leave but the sooner after ejaculation the better. As time passes the bull's semen will either drip out of your wife or it will be absorbed into her body, rendering the exercise futile. If possible get your wife to stay as still as possible after the bull has ejaculated. Semen has a funny way of running out with the slightest movement.

The most important thing though is not to have come. You need to be horny to truly make this happen and to minimize apprehension and angst.

Once in position take it nice and slow. Notice the way it smells. Notice how the smell might differ from your own cum. The smell will be a mixture of your bull and your wife's juices if he's come inside her. This is their unique sex smell. Notice the texture. Some bulls have thick strong semen while others are more runny. Take note of your wife's pussy, it might be a little stretched out after a good seeing to by the bull. As a rule of thumb try and work your way from the outside in finishing off at the center.

Once done you can ask your bull or wife if you can come. You will have one of the most explosive orgasms of your life. Enjoy and welcome to the cum eating cleanup club.

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The Big Bareback Decision

Safe sex within a cuckold relationship is one of the hottest topics on the topic of cuckolding. For starters there is a big difference between birth control and safe sex. Birth control is only intended to prevent pregnancy and not stop STIs from spreading, whereas safe sex is intended to stop both. Birth control are things like the pill and the patch and safe sex refers to using condoms where you prevent both pregnancy and the spread of bugs.

Obviously the role that semen/cum plays within a cuckold arrangement cannot be understated. At the very least as a couple you need to understand that with any sexual contact and activity with your bull there is a risk of pregnancy, regardless of what birth control you use. Generally birth control is anywhere between 80% and 96% effective depending on which report you read. It is a risk that needs to be accepted by the couple before entering the lifestyle. The are enough pregnant one night stands out there to prove this point.

That being said, that is one of the reasons that this lifestyle can be so edgy and amazing to go through, both the taboo and the risks that all three parties take on every time the bull enters the wife. The two parties that generally want the sex to be bareback are the bull and the husband for obvious reasons. Every single cuckold is turned on by the thought of the bull taking the wife bareback and ejaculating inside her and every bull wants the same.

The bull will want bareback play for several reasons. The first is that it will make sex more pleasurable for him and your wife. It will make sex more spontaneous and bring him closer to your wife sexually. He will also use his cum as a tool to knock you down another rung and serves as the ultimate evidence and method of cementing your position as a cuckold. The are some bulls that will start limiting your sexual contact with your wife, either by insisting that you start wearing condoms or that intercourse is restricted all together.

Barebacking is the one area though within a cuckold relationship where there may be disagreement between you, the wife and the bull. You need to place yourself into your wife's shoes for just a second and consider her point of view if she insists that condoms be used. It's one thing accepting another man's penis inside her body, let alone receiving his semen and the risks that only a woman will take at the end of the day. Women also place a large emotional value on allowing and accepting a man to come inside her.

If your wife is on the fence about going bareback, you and the bull may need to work together on pushing and passing that boundary. Do it carefully and sensitively and you may be surprised at how far she will go. My advice would be to go slowly.

Women, like men, tend to lose their inhibitions and focus when they're turned on. The more turned on the more they give up. Your bull will know this. The first step would be to create as many opportunities as possible between the bull and the wife where they are completely naked and his cock gets to be in close proximity to her vaginal entrance. For example during kissing or in the shower. This will get her used to feeling him around her private parts.

Next would be for an extended foreplay session that drives her absolutely wild with lust and pleasure. With the wife on her back the bull could come up to kiss her while going down on her, spreading her legs and resting his cock on her pussy while he kisses her. He may even be leaking precum which she will feel drip onto her mound. Its important that the bull never actually penetrates her, that would signal a breaking of the trust between them.

The next time they play he may choose to rub his erect penis over her entrance from top to bottom before putting the condom on and entering her. The whole point of this exercise is to get your wife as comfortable and used to having his hard cock at her entrance. Again when the opportunity arises let him rub himself against her opening but this time he should rest his tip just inside her at the bottom of her vaginal opening. If she's horny enough she'll push against him. At this stage the bull should say nothing and neither should you. Once his head is in you know you've crossed a boundary.

The bull should not cum inside her the first time he goes bareback. You've all three taken a huge step in getting this far, and you don't want to ruin a good thing. Plus there'll always be time to push the creampie boundary.

Support your wife if she brings it up, tell her it was hot to see and experience and that you're proud of her. Tell her its fine because he didn't come inside her and it's natures way. Its just another step towards turning you into a fully fledged cuckold.

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