Cuckold Angst and how to Deal with it

Cuckold angst is one of the most powerful emotions and biggest hurdles to overcome as the cuckold. It is one of the biggest issue that needs to be dealt with and the reason why more men are not cuckolded. Cuckold angst is a specific emotion made up of primarily of jealously and fear of the unknown coupled with a feeling of excitement and arousal at the prospect of getting cuckolded.

Cuckold angst is very much an emotional state that changes in intensity as you go through with the process of getting cuckolded and is not unlike the proverbial rollercoaster ride.

Nothing can truly prepare one for the intensity of the emotions which a cuckold will go through as the wife takes on another lover. Knowing what the process entails will help you push through the tough bits knowing that there's light on the other side of the tunnel.

As a rule of thumb make sure that all communication between her prospective bull, your wife and yourself is always open and transparent. Part of what drives cuckold angst is not being in the loop and this will minimize the angst at least on the communication front.

Another key aspect of minimizing your angst is to iron out everything during your initial meet (see Finding and Choosing your Bull). Remember your first meeting will be in public and there should be no sexual contact or play during this meeting. This is simply to understand each party's desires and needs. If you're all on the same page there should be nothing that surprises you once the play starts.

However even if you've dealt with all potential risks there will still be a significant amount to deal with that's unknown that you need to be prepared for. The first thing you will need to deal with will be your wife's excitement and nervousness that comes with any new sexual partner. This is typical as you can imagine of any new partner. Think about how you first felt when you met your wife. Butterflies in the stomach and the imagination running wild. This is completely normal and you must remember this is why you are entering the lifestyle, to give it some horns! And because you'll be part of the comms (as mentioned above) you must make a point to enjoy it with her.

The second crucial element of cuckold angst will be your first playdate. As a word of advice make your first playdate with all three of you in the same room. Don't be brave and send her on a date the first time, you're adding unnecessary tension and stress to an already tough situation. As a male your visual sense will be your main driver of angst as you witness your wife give herself over to her new partner.

 

The hardest (and most exciting) things to see is the undressing of both your wife and her new lover. A good bull will take his time, checking both your and your wife's responses as each item of clothing comes off. The real crux will come when she's in her underwear. Her bra should come off first and this is a big deal for women as they are probably most self conscious about their breasts (can we call this "hotwife angst"?). Say something encouraging if you can to help her out, remember this is as big for you as for her and she will also need loads of encouragement. From an angst perspective just think of this as two people getting naked.

Next will be her panties. This is a massive step and you will feel like the walls may be closing in. Psychologically the bull is removing the very last physical barrier to sexual intercourse and it will be her and your tacit approval of the willingness to enter into the cuckold lifestyle. The first time we played the bull had my wife on her back on the edge of the bed and reached underneath her and pulled them off. She obviously had to lift her hips a little to help get them off which was her way of giving approval.

Seeing the bull take his underwear off should be an interesting process, you will definitely compare size. You should have chosen a bull that is bigger than you anyhows which should make for an interesting event.

Seeing the bull and the wife kiss is also a sight to see as it is extremely intimate. Some couples don't allow kissing for this exact reason. If you do decide to allow kissing start slow (start with the neck and/or breasts) and get them to work their way up to a full blown french kiss.

If you've come this far well done.

The biggest issue and the one that will dominate your first play will be the initial penetration. If your bull has done his job everyone will be relaxed and extremely aroused. Make sure that you have a good view of them both. A good bull will spend a fair amount of time with the initial penetration both for himself and for you as a couple. Enjoy this moment. You will be so enamored with the situation the angst will disappear the moment he pushes himself in.



Congratulations, you've passed one of the most challenging aspects of the cuckold process.

The Cuck

Cleanup on Isle V

The cleanup is one of the most discussed topics on the issue of cuckolding. How many couples actually go through with the act is probably up for debate as it really ranks quite high up in the advanced space of cuckolding.

The act of cleaning up is any act involving the cuckold licking up the bull's cum. Although widely portrayed as the licking of your wife after the bull has ejaculated inside her it refers more widely to any instance where the cuckold licks the cum of the bull, whether it be off her breasts, her pussy, her bum or from inside her. The point of the cleanup is to avoid your wife having to get up after having sex with her bull and dealing with the semen that is either starting to leak from her vagina or run off her body.

This is probably one of the most powerful acts within the cuckold lifestyle as it so easily combines the mental AND physical aspects of the cuckolding lifestyle. From a physical perspective it brings the cuckold right to the apex of where his wife and her lover join. Semen also carries with it immense  psychological power, being one half of the ingredients needed for conception and life to start and its presence either inside or on your wife indicates a certain level of ownership has already taken place.

As far as the cuckold is concerned it is the ultimate proof that his wife has had someone inside her (if the bull ejaculates inside her) and that she is comfortable having his semen in and around her body. As far as this type of activity goes there is also the assumption that at this point the bull has been tested and is clean and that some form of bareback play is part of the mix. This is also the one area where the wife is actually not the center of attention and also doesn't receive as much pleasure as the cuckold. This is an act primarily between the bull who uses this to dominate the cuckold and for the cuckold to reinforce his acceptance of the bull's dominance by taking the bull's semen into his own body. The wife is merely the conduit through which this power flows.

Getting to the cleanup stage in the lifestyle should take the cuckold quite a bit of time. It is a big step to take in the relationship and won't come easily to most men. We are not programmed to eat semen, whether it be our own or someone else's. However, there is one little weakness that all men possess and that is sexual excitement, aka being horny and both the bull and the cuckold need to exploit this to the full in preparing for cleanup duty.

To help you with the mental aspect of getting into contact with another man's semen just think of the general expectation that men have of women to either let us come inside their mouths or for them to swallow our cum. If they've been doing it for so long surely it isn't actually such a big deal for you to do the same. The other way of looking at it is that you've allowed another man outside of your marriage to not only be inside your wife, but be inside her without protection, cleaning up a little cum afterwards is actually not that big of a step to take.

The best way to tackle the process of cleaning up after your bull and wife is first to get comfortable with your own cum. The biggest challenge that most men face when trying to sample their own cum is that the desire to do so disappears as soon as you've orgasmed. Firstly, try and scoop and taste as much precum as possible leading up to your orgasm. This will get you used to the taste and texture of whats coming out of your body. Secondly, stop touching yourself as soon as you start your orgasming and start ejaculating. It will feel unnatural and frustrating but you will be able to ejaculate without losing much of your arousal. With that done you can scoop up some cum and taste. The more you do this the easier it will become.

Once you're comfortable with your own cum get your wife involved when the two of you are playing. If the bull still allows you to come inside her, ask her if you can go down on her afterwards or for her to sit on your chest or face afterwards. Most girls are always keen for oral so this shouldn't be an issue. If you still feel like you've lost the urge after coming, give yourselves a 10 minute breather and then climb in. At this point you should be well versed and comfortable consuming your own semen.

Whether the bull or wife ask you or not you are entitled as the cuckold to clean up after them (i.e. you do not need to wait for an invitation, although most bulls will ask you to clean up anyways). Some couples wait for the bull to first leave but the sooner after ejaculation the better. As time passes the bull's semen will either drip out of your wife or it will be absorbed into her body, rendering the exercise futile. If possible get your wife to stay as still as possible after the bull has ejaculated. Semen has a funny way of running out with the slightest movement.

The most important thing though is not to have come. You need to be horny to truly make this happen and to minimize apprehension and angst.

Once in position take it nice and slow. Notice the way it smells. Notice how the smell might differ from your own cum. The smell will be a mixture of your bull and your wife's juices if he's come inside her. This is their unique sex smell. Notice the texture. Some bulls have thick strong semen while others are more runny. Take note of your wife's pussy, it might be a little stretched out after a good seeing to by the bull. As a rule of thumb try and work your way from the outside in finishing off at the center.

Once done you can ask your bull or wife if you can come. You will have one of the most explosive orgasms of your life. Enjoy and welcome to the cum eating cleanup club.

The Cuck

The Big Bareback Decision

Safe sex within a cuckold relationship is one of the hottest topics on the topic of cuckolding. For starters there is a big difference between birth control and safe sex. Birth control is only intended to prevent pregnancy and not stop STIs from spreading, whereas safe sex is intended to stop both. Birth control are things like the pill and the patch and safe sex refers to using condoms where you prevent both pregnancy and the spread of bugs.

Obviously the role that semen/cum plays within a cuckold arrangement cannot be understated. At the very least as a couple you need to understand that with any sexual contact and activity with your bull there is a risk of pregnancy, regardless of what birth control you use. Generally birth control is anywhere between 80% and 96% effective depending on which report you read. It is a risk that needs to be accepted by the couple before entering the lifestyle. The are enough pregnant one night stands out there to prove this point.

That being said, that is one of the reasons that this lifestyle can be so edgy and amazing to go through, both the taboo and the risks that all three parties take on every time the bull enters the wife. The two parties that generally want the sex to be bareback are the bull and the husband for obvious reasons. Every single cuckold is turned on by the thought of the bull taking the wife bareback and ejaculating inside her and every bull wants the same.

The bull will want bareback play for several reasons. The first is that it will make sex more pleasurable for him and your wife. It will make sex more spontaneous and bring him closer to your wife sexually. He will also use his cum as a tool to knock you down another rung and serves as the ultimate evidence and method of cementing your position as a cuckold. The are some bulls that will start limiting your sexual contact with your wife, either by insisting that you start wearing condoms or that intercourse is restricted all together.

Barebacking is the one area though within a cuckold relationship where there may be disagreement between you, the wife and the bull. You need to place yourself into your wife's shoes for just a second and consider her point of view if she insists that condoms be used. It's one thing accepting another man's penis inside her body, let alone receiving his semen and the risks that only a woman will take at the end of the day. Women also place a large emotional value on allowing and accepting a man to come inside her.

If your wife is on the fence about going bareback, you and the bull may need to work together on pushing and passing that boundary. Do it carefully and sensitively and you may be surprised at how far she will go. My advice would be to go slowly.

Women, like men, tend to lose their inhibitions and focus when they're turned on. The more turned on the more they give up. Your bull will know this. The first step would be to create as many opportunities as possible between the bull and the wife where they are completely naked and his cock gets to be in close proximity to her vaginal entrance. For example during kissing or in the shower. This will get her used to feeling him around her private parts.

Next would be for an extended foreplay session that drives her absolutely wild with lust and pleasure. With the wife on her back the bull could come up to kiss her while going down on her, spreading her legs and resting his cock on her pussy while he kisses her. He may even be leaking precum which she will feel drip onto her mound. Its important that the bull never actually penetrates her, that would signal a breaking of the trust between them.

The next time they play he may choose to rub his erect penis over her entrance from top to bottom before putting the condom on and entering her. The whole point of this exercise is to get your wife as comfortable and used to having his hard cock at her entrance. Again when the opportunity arises let him rub himself against her opening but this time he should rest his tip just inside her at the bottom of her vaginal opening. If she's horny enough she'll push against him. At this stage the bull should say nothing and neither should you. Once his head is in you know you've crossed a boundary.

The bull should not cum inside her the first time he goes bareback. You've all three taken a huge step in getting this far, and you don't want to ruin a good thing. Plus there'll always be time to push the creampie boundary.

Support your wife if she brings it up, tell her it was hot to see and experience and that you're proud of her. Tell her its fine because he didn't come inside her and it's natures way. Its just another step towards turning you into a fully fledged cuckold.

The Cuck

Cementing the Bulls Position as Alpha

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First Time Sex with your Bull

So you and your wife have decided to arrange a play date with your prospective bull. You've booked the hotel room, stocked up on condoms and probably have a little cuckold angst (I'll go into detail on this in another post). She's dressed to seduce with a nice set of bra and panties or maybe some lingerie underneath, preferably something new that neither you nor the soon to be would have seen before. Any pubic grooming should also be taken care of before the event.

As a cuck you will be extremely turned on and aroused leading up to your first meeting. Make sure for at least 2 days leading up to the meeting you limit your sexual contact with your partner and make sure you don't orgasm/ejaculate in these 2 days. Obviously the longer the better but 2 days should be the minimum. The longer you're able to avoid sexual contact/release the better the first experience will be and will result in an earth shattering experience when you are eventually allowed to come.
As a rule of thumb the hornier you are the easier it will be to deal with the angst once the lay begins.

Make sure you meet your bull in the hotel bar and make sure you have a couple (not too many) drinks before you go to your room. This will give everyone a chance to relax and the drinks will help with the inhibitions if there are any.

Once you head to the room you need to let the bull and your wife take the lead. If he's a half decent bull he'll take over automatically and make sure that he sticks to the rules. If you've agreed on a vanilla MFM threesome the first time he'll make sure it works out.

Now, no matter what you've seen online etc there will be defining moments the first time you are cuckolded that nothing can prepare you for. Watching another man undress your wife is as surreal as it is daunting. It will feel like a high speed train that you just can't stop. Removing her bra and exposing her breasts will be big for her considering how self conscious women are of their breasts. Watching him remove her panties will be equally significant for both of you as it signals her approval to accept another man inside her body and represents the very last physical barrier between herself and the bull.

Once the heavy petting, kissing and rubbing starts you will start feeling a little better and will be extremely turned on. Masturbate if needed/allowed but make sure not to come. You need to be the last to come out of respect and protocol. And you need to enjoy yourself also, this is a three party triangle where each person derives as much enjoyment as the next albeit in slightly different ways. If you get invited to join by all means do so.

Depending on the pace of the foreplay, at some point your bull is going to want to penetrate your wife. Firstly you need to make sure that in the heat of the moment he hasn't forgotten about the condom and that he's got it on properly. If not you need to remind him of the rules. First time play always requires a condom in our books. Now, you need to understand that the next minute or so will define the rest of your sexual identity and life. Enjoy it as far as possible.

Try and aim for the Mrs to be in the missionary position as it provides the best view and puts the bull in charge at the same time. What you will see is another man opening your wife's legs and placing the head of his cock against the entrance of her vagina. A good bull will never rush the initial penetration and will give both the wife and the cuckold time to adjust to the moment before starting to push his head in. Should everything and everyone not raise any objections and get cold feet, the bull will slowly start pushing against her opening.

You will slowly see his head disappearing inside your wife at which point again the bull should stop to savor the moment. You could debate at exactly what point a man becomes a cuckold but it can only be the point at which the bull's head slips inside your wife. This is the point at which another man has irrefutably entered your wife's body and you've entered the lifestyle.  It may require a few strokes thereafter to fully place himself inside her but eventually he will be.

At this point you have become a cuckold. And it is something you will be for the rest of your life. Accept it and enjoy it. Every step you have taken sexually has led you to this point.

As far as the play date goes the bull and the wife will fuck for as long as they please and they will eventually finish. Only once they are done should you orgasm if you still feel the need. As a rule of thumb the bull should not sleep over on the first night. You are well within your rights to kick him out and enjoy the rest of whats left of the evening with your new hotwife.

The Cuck

Finding and Choosing your Bull

Finding the right bull for your first experience is probably the most important decision you need to make. If you mess this up you could jeopardize your entire future as a cuckold. Remember your wife/girlfriend is going to base their decision on whether to continue on this journey based on their first experience and how is matches up to their expectation. There are thousands of guys out there that think they are bulls or don't have the requisite experience to do the job properly. Avoid them at all costs. I will explain how to find the right guy for the job.

The easiest way to find a bull by far is online. Create a couples profile on line on many of the available swingers sites and make sure you complete your profile properly. You also need to mention specifically that you are looking for another male and that he needs to have some experience as a bull. If you don't you run the risk of attracting an average guy that might give you a great threesome but nothing further to build on.

Be specific about the characteristics that you are looking for both physically and mentally. Remember cuckolding is 50% mental and 50% physical. The smarter the guy the, the higher chance that he understands and will leverage the cuckold situation to his advantage. The best bulls are those that know how to play the mental game and know which buttons to push and how to leverage off both the cuckold's and hotwife's fantasies and desires to achieve what he wants.You also won't always be in the sack and he needs to be able to hold a conversation.

Before you meet your prospective bull make sure that you have a couple of chats online just to make sure he isn't wasting your time. You'll know pretty soon on whether he's the real deal or not. Real bulls do not start their discussions with prospective couples on how they're going to fuck your wife's brains out etc. Good bulls are subtle and affirming with alpha like qualities. They don't need to overpower you as a couple to be an effective bull. As they saying goes if you need to tell someone you're a bull you probably aren't.

At this point you can probably exchange numbers and form some sort of chat group. Its imperative that all three of you are on the group chat. The golden rule to cuckolding is that there are always three people involved. This will allow you to get more comfortable and normally enjoy a little bit of banter. As a hard rule make sure that all communication with your bull or prospective bull is done on the group. That way everyone is always in the loop.

The next step is obviously a physical meeting. Make sure that its in a public space that suits you as a couple and a space you are familiar with. The familiarity will calm the nerves a little. At this point the wife should wear something sexy but not slutty. Maintain a little class, this is obviously a mental kink and you obviously want to leave something to the imagination.

During the meeting you need to discuss what each of you is looking for. Hopefully you've discussed your desires with each other as a couple before the meeting so there are no surprises. The key again is to start off slow and take it from there. At this point the bull knows why he's there and it is also an opportunity to set hard and soft rules or boundaries with the bull. For example you may want to start off with a vanilla MFM threesome and move along from there. Or you may just want him to watch the first time to get used to another presence in your bedroom.

The bull must also tell you both what his kinks are and what turns him on. He will also have a vision for you as a couple sexually and where he fits in. Some bulls want full unfettered access to your wife, while others are happy to play within the times given to him. He may not want the husband there during play whilst you may want to be there. Sort these out before proceeding.

A smart bull will go with the couple's requests and rules as he will know that boundaries will eventually get pushed and stretched and that it is a journey after all no matter how small the steps.

The one rule however that needs to be discussed and agreed is that of birth control and safe sex. Safe sex and birth control are not the same thing. Bear in mind that sex does occasionally lead to pregnancy and that birth control is never 100% effective. As a matter of course every good bull will eventually want to go bareback. For various reasons that I'll write about in a later post the bareback experience is both critical for a bull to fulfill his function as a bull and will complete the cuckolding process that you've both set out on. But for starters make sure that you have safe sex (read condoms) and your wife is on birth control.

Let the bull get the tab, he will feel that you now owe him a favor upon which he can call. Remember its a psychological fetish that has just started and every move is important. If everyone is still on the same page the next step would be to invite your prospective bull over to a hotel room for some play time.

The Cuck

Getting the Mrs on Board

So lets assume that the cuckold seed has been sown and you're a little curious about where these dirty thoughts are going to go. The first step of introducing the concept of cuckolding to your wife is not to. If you jump the gun and come out all guns blazing on this one you're going to fail. You're dealing in most cases with a woman who's had 25+ years of being told that monogamy is the only answer to relationships and that cheating is bad etc.

Like anything as potentially big as this you need to start slowly. Think snails pace here. As a point of departure always make sure that when you raise certain aspects or ideas make sure you are in a play session with the Mrs. Get her nice and horny as part of your usual bedroom play before blurting anything out. Women are very much like men when there are randy, you'll get away with a lot more and she'll be more willing as well.

Start out by mentioning how some guy at the mall couldn't stop looking at her and that if she keeps dressing like that you won't always be able to protect her from an advance. If you watch porn together make sure to put on a really gentle MFM threesome every now and again. Not too often otherwise she may suspect something. Then gauge what her response is when it gets hot and heavy. If you sense she's ok with it ask her if she thinks its hot. Ask her if she ever considered doing something like that before you two met (believe it or not, all our wives were naughty at some point). Depending on her response you'll know whether she's still keen or not.

Give it some time before moving on. A couple of weeks later you may want to ask her how her first sexual encounter was and whether it was as awkward as yours. Come from a place of sincerity and a real willingness to know (throw in some humor). She may relay a silly story or something that happened. The idea here is to get her comfortable talking about her prior sexual experiences with you, without feeling like you're asking for juicy tidbits. If you also share a little you'd be surprised how much she'll disclose to you.

Getting her to talk about them will make her think of and remember certain instances where she was with another guy and probably enjoyed it. This also tells her that you're comfortable including a sexual encounter she's had with another man in your shared space. If you can, do some of the things that your wife has mentioned to you from her past in bed. Ten to one it will make her think of her ex while you're doing it. Even better do it while she's blindfolded.

The idea with the above is getting her comfortable thinking and fantasizing about other men while you are giving her sexual enjoyment. She will start associating and breaking down the internal barriers that are preventing her from starting on this journey with you.

The final step is to raise the issue of a threesome and whether she would like to try it (remember threesomes are relatively harmless compared to full on cuckolding). I used to raise the issue of a FMF threesome with her every couple of weeks when we used to have sex and eventually she said she would do it provided we could have a MFM threesome first. That was her way of closing the discussion down as she's never been into other girls. When I accepted her proposal it caught her offguard but it certainly had the desired effect.

Remember most women are incredibly shy and self conscious. Offer to do it overseas or out of town where you're completely unrecognizable. Offer a trip to Vegas if you must. The one condition that you need to stress that if she doesn't enjoy it she doesn't have to do it again and it will be a one time deal only. Keep working this point until she agrees to give you something.

She'll have some questions around love and what ifs which you need to deal with sensitively and truthfully. You can also invite someone just to watch you two have sex. The options are there but you need to get some form of consent to continue to include another person. If at first you don't succeed try again. Eventually you will.

The next step once she's indicated her willingness to  explore is where the rubber (excuse the pun) truly hits the road which I'll talk about next week.

The Cuck

Recognising that you're a cuckold

As a starting point I'm going to assume that you already know what cuckolding is, what a bull is, what a cuck is and what a hotwife is. There are plenty of resources available online that will bring you up to speed in no time at all.

In this post I'm going to discuss where it all starts and how to make cuckolding happen in your life. There's a lot of nonsense out there and most of it is built on a foundation of misconceptions.

It is true that most cuckolding fantasies and ideas start with the man in the relationship. Most women are just too conservative in their thinking and morality to even think of cuckolding as a) existing and b) being something that they would actually want to try. With the massive amount of porn available online these days most men will eventually stumble across something cuckold or threesome related which will sow the proverbial seed. The first cuckold movie I watched was a short clip that was poorly filmed and didn't leave much of an impression, but the seed got sowed that day.

There are a massive amount of men out there that are by nature submissive and have a cuckolding fetish. All it takes is a trigger to unlock what is buried inside so many of us, whether it be a porno you stumble across, a friend touching your wife or girlfriend in an off limits place by accident or hearing about your wife or girldfriend's prior sexual experiences. A bull that we met many years after setting out on this journey once told us that a true cuckold's wife will always eventually become available.

If you've had thoughts about being a cuckold or the idea turns you on you need to accept that eventually your wife or girlfriend will cuckold you. Accepting it early on and taking a couple of steps in pushing the process along (discussed later in this blog) will ease your journey to the inevitable. This is not something that you can fight, regardless of how hard you try.

Over the next couple of blogs I'm going to help you understand this new world, what's important and what's not. Ignore all those "get cuckolded in 30 days" books and brochures, they are rubbish and only exist to prey on cuckolds that want to learn more. I'm going to share my own experiences and hopefully you too can experience the full wonders of what its like to share the most beautiful thing in the world: your wife.

The Cuck