Getting the Mrs on Board

So lets assume that the cuckold seed has been sown and you're a little curious about where these dirty thoughts are going to go. The first step of introducing the concept of cuckolding to your wife is not to. If you jump the gun and come out all guns blazing on this one you're going to fail. You're dealing in most cases with a woman who's had 25+ years of being told that monogamy is the only answer to relationships and that cheating is bad etc.

Like anything as potentially big as this you need to start slowly. Think snails pace here. As a point of departure always make sure that when you raise certain aspects or ideas make sure you are in a play session with the Mrs. Get her nice and horny as part of your usual bedroom play before blurting anything out. Women are very much like men when there are randy, you'll get away with a lot more and she'll be more willing as well.

Start out by mentioning how some guy at the mall couldn't stop looking at her and that if she keeps dressing like that you won't always be able to protect her from an advance. If you watch porn together make sure to put on a really gentle MFM threesome every now and again. Not too often otherwise she may suspect something. Then gauge what her response is when it gets hot and heavy. If you sense she's ok with it ask her if she thinks its hot. Ask her if she ever considered doing something like that before you two met (believe it or not, all our wives were naughty at some point). Depending on her response you'll know whether she's still keen or not.

Give it some time before moving on. A couple of weeks later you may want to ask her how her first sexual encounter was and whether it was as awkward as yours. Come from a place of sincerity and a real willingness to know (throw in some humor). She may relay a silly story or something that happened. The idea here is to get her comfortable talking about her prior sexual experiences with you, without feeling like you're asking for juicy tidbits. If you also share a little you'd be surprised how much she'll disclose to you.

Getting her to talk about them will make her think of and remember certain instances where she was with another guy and probably enjoyed it. This also tells her that you're comfortable including a sexual encounter she's had with another man in your shared space. If you can, do some of the things that your wife has mentioned to you from her past in bed. Ten to one it will make her think of her ex while you're doing it. Even better do it while she's blindfolded.

The idea with the above is getting her comfortable thinking and fantasizing about other men while you are giving her sexual enjoyment. She will start associating and breaking down the internal barriers that are preventing her from starting on this journey with you.

The final step is to raise the issue of a threesome and whether she would like to try it (remember threesomes are relatively harmless compared to full on cuckolding). I used to raise the issue of a FMF threesome with her every couple of weeks when we used to have sex and eventually she said she would do it provided we could have a MFM threesome first. That was her way of closing the discussion down as she's never been into other girls. When I accepted her proposal it caught her offguard but it certainly had the desired effect.

Remember most women are incredibly shy and self conscious. Offer to do it overseas or out of town where you're completely unrecognizable. Offer a trip to Vegas if you must. The one condition that you need to stress that if she doesn't enjoy it she doesn't have to do it again and it will be a one time deal only. Keep working this point until she agrees to give you something.

She'll have some questions around love and what ifs which you need to deal with sensitively and truthfully. You can also invite someone just to watch you two have sex. The options are there but you need to get some form of consent to continue to include another person. If at first you don't succeed try again. Eventually you will.

The next step once she's indicated her willingness to  explore is where the rubber (excuse the pun) truly hits the road which I'll talk about next week.

The Cuck