Finding and Choosing your Bull

Finding the right bull for your first experience is probably the most important decision you need to make. If you mess this up you could jeopardize your entire future as a cuckold. Remember your wife/girlfriend is going to base their decision on whether to continue on this journey based on their first experience and how is matches up to their expectation. There are thousands of guys out there that think they are bulls or don't have the requisite experience to do the job properly. Avoid them at all costs. I will explain how to find the right guy for the job.

The easiest way to find a bull by far is online. Create a couples profile on line on many of the available swingers sites and make sure you complete your profile properly. You also need to mention specifically that you are looking for another male and that he needs to have some experience as a bull. If you don't you run the risk of attracting an average guy that might give you a great threesome but nothing further to build on.

Be specific about the characteristics that you are looking for both physically and mentally. Remember cuckolding is 50% mental and 50% physical. The smarter the guy the, the higher chance that he understands and will leverage the cuckold situation to his advantage. The best bulls are those that know how to play the mental game and know which buttons to push and how to leverage off both the cuckold's and hotwife's fantasies and desires to achieve what he wants.You also won't always be in the sack and he needs to be able to hold a conversation.

Before you meet your prospective bull make sure that you have a couple of chats online just to make sure he isn't wasting your time. You'll know pretty soon on whether he's the real deal or not. Real bulls do not start their discussions with prospective couples on how they're going to fuck your wife's brains out etc. Good bulls are subtle and affirming with alpha like qualities. They don't need to overpower you as a couple to be an effective bull. As they saying goes if you need to tell someone you're a bull you probably aren't.

At this point you can probably exchange numbers and form some sort of chat group. Its imperative that all three of you are on the group chat. The golden rule to cuckolding is that there are always three people involved. This will allow you to get more comfortable and normally enjoy a little bit of banter. As a hard rule make sure that all communication with your bull or prospective bull is done on the group. That way everyone is always in the loop.

The next step is obviously a physical meeting. Make sure that its in a public space that suits you as a couple and a space you are familiar with. The familiarity will calm the nerves a little. At this point the wife should wear something sexy but not slutty. Maintain a little class, this is obviously a mental kink and you obviously want to leave something to the imagination.

During the meeting you need to discuss what each of you is looking for. Hopefully you've discussed your desires with each other as a couple before the meeting so there are no surprises. The key again is to start off slow and take it from there. At this point the bull knows why he's there and it is also an opportunity to set hard and soft rules or boundaries with the bull. For example you may want to start off with a vanilla MFM threesome and move along from there. Or you may just want him to watch the first time to get used to another presence in your bedroom.

The bull must also tell you both what his kinks are and what turns him on. He will also have a vision for you as a couple sexually and where he fits in. Some bulls want full unfettered access to your wife, while others are happy to play within the times given to him. He may not want the husband there during play whilst you may want to be there. Sort these out before proceeding.

A smart bull will go with the couple's requests and rules as he will know that boundaries will eventually get pushed and stretched and that it is a journey after all no matter how small the steps.

The one rule however that needs to be discussed and agreed is that of birth control and safe sex. Safe sex and birth control are not the same thing. Bear in mind that sex does occasionally lead to pregnancy and that birth control is never 100% effective. As a matter of course every good bull will eventually want to go bareback. For various reasons that I'll write about in a later post the bareback experience is both critical for a bull to fulfill his function as a bull and will complete the cuckolding process that you've both set out on. But for starters make sure that you have safe sex (read condoms) and your wife is on birth control.

Let the bull get the tab, he will feel that you now owe him a favor upon which he can call. Remember its a psychological fetish that has just started and every move is important. If everyone is still on the same page the next step would be to invite your prospective bull over to a hotel room for some play time.

The Cuck